Sex and Sexuality Resources

Stop asking people not to be sexual, start asking people to have sexual integrity.

General Sexual Health

• Sexual fantasies for better sex with Taylor Nolan and Justin Lehmiller https://youtu.be/8F2EEvKQ57g

• No more sexual shame with Dan Savage and David Ley https://youtu.be/BjxKOAllG3M

• Sex and Relationship Myths by David Ley – https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/women-who-stray/201603/5-sexrelationship-myths-therapists-should-stop-believing

• A better way to talk about abortions Aspen Baker TED talk (really any uncomfortable and sensitive subject) https://www.ted.com/talks/aspen_baker_a_better_way_to_talk_about_abortion

• Sexual Addiction and the 6 principles of sexual health Podcast https://igniteintimacy.libsyn.com/107-addiction-the-six-principles-of-sexual-heath-with-doug-braun-harvey

• Keys to a happier, healthier sex life with Emily Nagoski – https://www.ted.com/talks/emily_nagoski_the_keys_to_a_happier_healthier_sex_life?language=en

• The Genderbread Person – sexuality, identity, gender, orientation expression https://www.genderbread.org/resource/genderbread-person-v4-0

Porn

• Porn addiction is a myth with David Ley – https://youtu.be/9ytGgLtQKHk

• Is porn addictive with Laci Green – https://youtu.be/EBSG98qzaPc

  • all of her videos are solid!

• Ethical Porn – what it is and how to find it – https://youtu.be/0XA2i_dfG8M

• Changing narrative around the addiction story – Healthy Porn Preparation – https://youtu.be/mNGg5SMcyhl

• Books

  • Ethical Porn for Dicks

Physiology and Pleasure

• Ultimate guide to the clitoris – lots of naked vulvas in this one, also, the information is SO good, but the way it is given, with cheesy images and teacher voiceover, is slightly cringey. – https://youtu.be/erlRMhnJEWc

• A guide to foreskins – https://youtu.be/w86iZEZiCFY

• The truth about unwanted arousal (if you ever felt like you were inappropriately aroused – AFAB oriented) with Emily Nagoski – https://www.ted.com/talks/emily_nagoski_the_truth_about_unwanted_arousal?language=en#t-99024

• Othercourse (everything outside intercourse) – https://sexualityresources.com/sites/default/files/documents/Othercourse17_0.pdf

• 8 components of Magnificent Sex – Peggy Kleinplatz et al – https://juliacolwell.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/05/The-components-of-optimal-sexuality-Kleinplatz-et-al.-2009.pdf

• Books

  • Guide to getting it on

  • Come as you are

  • Magnificent Sex

  • The Erotic Mind

  • McCarthy’s books on Coping with Erectile Dysfunction / Premature Ejaculation

  • Betty Dodson’s Sex for One

Relationships

• Healthy relationship mindset – Dr. Meg Barker – https://www.rewriting-the-rules.com/love-commitment/happy-holidays-ted-talk/

• The types of non-monogamy – http://www.obsidianfields.com/lj/nonmonogamy3-large.png

• Love, marriage, and monogamy with Dan Savage and Esther Perel – https://youtu.be/s7E9ASb3LfE

• How to sustain a strong sexual connection for a lifetime with Emily Nagoski – https://www.ted.com/talks/emily_nagoski_how_couples_can_sustain_a_strong_sexual_connection_for_a_lifetime?language=en#t-171795

• Sexual Conflict in Human Mating -understand common patterns of conflict and sexual differences – https://youtu.be/mu4Uki8VyLc

• Secret to desire in a long-term relationship – https://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_the_secret_to_desire_in_a_long_term_relationship?language=en

• Rethinking Infidelity https://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_rethinking_infidelity_a_talk_for_anyone_who_has_ever_loved?language=en

• Vulnerability Cycle – great way to frame, understand, and break your conflict patterns

  • https://chicagocenterforrelationshipcounseling.com/josh-blog/2016/10/24/the-vulnerability-cycle

  • more technical – but it is SO helpful to draw your own cycle and you can look at the pics/scan this article to find out how to do that. https://www.semanticscholar.org/paper/The-vulnerability-cycle%3A-working-with-impasses-in-Scheinkman-Fishbane/e2f26ce3c6ee710841ab6c2d8d6b61c2516e4764

• Love is Not Enough Comic recovering from, and understanding, intense love and break ups https://www.ohjoysextoy.com/loveisnotenough/

• Books:

  • The Ethical Slut

  • Mating in Captivity

  • Rekindling Desire

BDSM and Kink

• Morgan Thorne YouTube channel – https://www.youtube.com/c/MorganThorneBDSM

• Evie Lupine youtube channel – https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHExB-d5s0zBcbsaHEUy91Q

• Books

  • Sexual Outsider – Understanding BDSM Sexualities and Communities

  • Sacred Kink – the eightfold paths of BDSM and beyond

General Resources

• https://sexualityresources.com/educational-resources

• Esther Perel’s Sessions

• Sexplanations with Dr. Lindsey Doe -https://www.youtube.com/user/sexplanations