Sex and Sexuality Resources


Stop asking people not to be sexual, start asking people to have sexual integrity.

General Sexual Health

  • Sexual fantasies for better sex with Taylor Nolan and Justin Lehmiller https://youtu.be/8F2EEvKQ57g

  • No more sexual shame with Dan Savage and David Ley https://youtu.be/BjxKOAllG3M

  • Sex and Relationship Myths by David Ley https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/women-who-stray/201603/5-sexrelationship-myths-therapists-should-stop-believing

  • A better way to talk about abortions Aspen Baker TED talk (really any uncomfortable and sensitive subject) https://www.ted.com/talks/aspen_baker_a_better_way_to_talk_about_abortion

  • Sexual Addiction and the 6 principles of sexual health Podcast https://igniteintimacy.libsyn.com/107-addiction-the-six-principles-of-sexual-heath-with-doug-braun-harvey

  • Keys to a happier, healthier sex life with Emily Nagoski – https://www.ted.com/talks/emily_nagoski_the_keys_to_a_happier_healthier_sex_life?language=en

  • The Genderbread Person – sexuality, identity, gender, orientation expression https://www.genderbread.org/resource/genderbread-person-v4-0

Porn

  • Porn addiction is a myth with David Ley – https://youtu.be/9ytGgLtQKHk

  • Is porn addictive with Laci Green – https://youtu.be/EBSG98qzaPc

  • all of her videos are solid!


  • Ethical Porn – what it is and how to find it – https://youtu.be/0XA2i_dfG8M

  • Changing narrative around the addiction story – Healthy Porn Preparation – https://youtu.be/mNGg5SMcyhl

  • Books

  • Ethical Porn for Dicks


Physiology and Pleasure

  • Ultimate guide to the clitoris – lots of naked vulvas in this one, also, the information is SO good, but the way it is given, with cheesy images and teacher voiceover, is slightly cringey. – https://youtu.be/erlRMhnJEWc

  • A guide to foreskins – https://youtu.be/w86iZEZiCFY

  • The truth about unwanted arousal (if you ever felt like you were inappropriately aroused – AFAB oriented) with Emily Nagoski – https://www.ted.com/talks/emily_nagoski_the_truth_about_unwanted_arousal?language=en#t-99024

  • Othercourse (everything outside intercourse) – https://sexualityresources.com/sites/default/files/documents/Othercourse17_0.pdf

  • 8 components of Magnificent Sex – Peggy Kleinplatz et al – https://juliacolwell.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/05/The-components-of-optimal-sexuality-Kleinplatz-et-al.-2009.pdf

  • Books

  • Guide to getting it on

  • Come as you are

  • Magnificent Sex

  • The Erotic Mind

  • McCarthy’s books on Coping with Erectile Dysfunction / Premature Ejaculation

  • Betty Dodson’s Sex for One


Relationships

  • Healthy relationship mindset – Dr. Meg Barker – https://www.rewriting-the-rules.com/love-commitment/happy-holidays-ted-talk/

  • The types of non-monogamyhttp://www.obsidianfields.com/lj/nonmonogamy3-large.png

  • Love, marriage, and monogamy with Dan Savage and Esther Perel – https://youtu.be/s7E9ASb3LfE

  • How to sustain a strong sexual connection for a lifetime with Emily Nagoski – https://www.ted.com/talks/emily_nagoski_how_couples_can_sustain_a_strong_sexual_connection_for_a_lifetime?language=en#t-171795

  • Sexual Conflict in Human Mating -understand common patterns of conflict and sexual differences – https://youtu.be/mu4Uki8VyLc

  • Secret to desire in a long-term relationshiphttps://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_the_secret_to_desire_in_a_long_term_relationship?language=en

  • Rethinking Infidelity https://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_rethinking_infidelity_a_talk_for_anyone_who_has_ever_loved?language=en

  • Vulnerability Cycle – great way to frame, understand, and break your conflict patterns

  • https://chicagocenterforrelationshipcounseling.com/josh-blog/2016/10/24/the-vulnerability-cycle

  • more technical – but it is SO helpful to draw your own cycle and you can look at the pics/scan this article to find out how to do that. https://www.semanticscholar.org/paper/The-vulnerability-cycle%3A-working-with-impasses-in-Scheinkman-Fishbane/e2f26ce3c6ee710841ab6c2d8d6b61c2516e4764


  • Love is Not Enough Comic recovering from, and understanding, intense love and break ups https://www.ohjoysextoy.com/loveisnotenough/

  • Books:

  • The Ethical Slut

  • Mating in Captivity

  • Rekindling Desire


BDSM and Kink

  • Morgan Thorne YouTube channel – https://www.youtube.com/c/MorganThorneBDSM

  • Evie Lupine youtube channel – https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHExB-d5s0zBcbsaHEUy91Q

  • Books

  • Sexual Outsider – Understanding BDSM Sexualities and Communities

  • Sacred Kink – the eightfold paths of BDSM and beyond


General Resources

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